How Intend Parents Bonding with Your Baby| Surrogacy

For many couples wishing to complete their family with a baby, surrogacy can be the answer for making this dream come true. However, because the Intended Parents do not physically carry the baby through pregnancy in gestational surrogacy, one common worry among Intended Parents is they will not be able to bond with their baby as they would through a traditional pregnancy. If bonding with your baby is a concern, never fear – you are not alone! Consider the following tips other Intended Parents have found helpful for bonding with their new baby before and after coming home from the hospital as a family:

family photo on green grass during golden hour
  1. Be involved with your Surrogate. If your Surrogate lives nearby and you are both comfortable with it, consider attending doctor appointments together so you can see your baby’s growth and progress along with her. If your Surrogate is out of state or this is otherwise not an option, consider sending text or email pictures and updates.
  2. Prepare your nursery. Having a ready-to-go and pleasant space before baby arrives will not only relieve some stress, it will also reinforce that your dream is finally coming true while giving you some wonderful one-on-one quality time with your partner.
  3. Baby-proof your home. Keeping your home safe for your new family member will be an ongoing process and it is best to begin before he or she arrives. Be sure to install cabinet locks, outlet covers and keep an eye out for any potential choking hazards.
  4. Skin-to-skin contact. Newborn babies bond almost solely through touch and smell. As you cuddle and hold your baby close, you will both begin to bond with each other and learn each other’s cues and expressions.
  5. Interaction and response. Talk to your baby, make eye contact, and smile. This will help aid in brain growth and development as well as strengthen your bond together!
  6. Be patient. It can take time for you to attach to your new baby or for your baby to attach to you. Give your baby (and yourselves!) time to adjust to each other and understand that attachment and bonding will eventually happen naturally.
  7. Work with your agency. Your surrogate agency has seen and experienced every joy and bump on the surrogacy journey – including bonding! If you have questions or are uncertain about something, do not hesitate to reach out to your expert surrogacy team!
man in white shirt carrying boy

While bonding with your baby may take a slightly different approach when it comes to Intended Parents and Surrogacy, taking the proper time and preparation will help you build a strong and permanent bond with your new baby and family. The team of caring and experienced surrogacy experts at Surrogate Solutions prides itself on helping families make their dreams of having a baby together come true.

Recommend

What to Expect at a Surrogate’s First OB Visit

Wondering what happens at a surrogate's first OB visit? Learn what tests and screenings to expect, how the OB evaluates health and pregnancy status, what documents to bring, and how intended parents can participate. Discover how Baby Tree Surrogacy supports surrogates and intended parents through every step of the prenatal care process.

What to Expect at a Surrogate’s First OB Visit

Bonding with Baby After Surrogacy: Tips for Intended Parents

Discover proven bonding techniques for intended parents after surrogacy—from skin-to-skin contact and responsive feeding to emotional preparation and post-birth support. Learn practical newborn care strategies, ways to manage complex feelings, considerations for diverse families (LGBTQ+, single parents, international parents), and how Baby Tree Surrogacy helps you build a secure connection with your baby from day one.

[os_share][wp_ulike]
[wp_ulike]

0 Comments

Submit a Comment